Category Archives: Goals

Good Enough

Well, the three areas I want to keep clean, bathroom counter, the dishes and the laundry are all being worked on, daily, which is new. It isn’t always perfect, in fact I’d say it’s rarely perfect, but I have a large backlog of laundry to get through, the bathroom is still a construction zone, and the kitchen, although cleaner, isn’t where I want it to be, ultimately. That said? I’m going to say I’ve done what I set out to do.

Why? Because I know I can and probably would keep pushing the goal line out, looking for perfection, rather than giving myself credit for what I HAVE done. It’s a characteristic of mine that whatever I do is never enough, fast enough, complete enough, or in short good enough.

(Hello abuser!)

So, I’m going to declare a victory instead. And add something new. I want to start making the bed, daily. All of this is really simplistic and easy, if you don’t have panic attacks in a clean and ordered space. I’d really love it if someone could just come up with a drug or a switch they could flip somehow and it would just go away. No panic. No guilt. No “not good enoughs”. Because then I could set a goal and just X off the steps in between as I got them done.

I’d give one whole heck of a lot to have that work! But after 50+ years of fighting myself I know it doesn’t. I can get all caught up in trying to make the perfect plan. I can get all caught up in all the things I haven’t done. I can get all caught up in whatever flavor of not being perfect/good  enough fits, this time. Or, I can do a dramatic push and work and work and work — and then find a reason to sabotage myself, because internally I am freaking out/panicking.

So — I won’t do that this time.

It’s not perfect. I don’t care. It’s getting done, most of the time. It’s better than it has ever been — and that has to be good enough, because I know that if it isn’t either I’ll never get there OR I’ll freak out/panic.

So. I’ve won!

J

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Background Work

The latest anthology is all but done. The (c) page and other formatting sort of things need to be completed. We also need contracts & money from the publisher. So, a bit more work there, but basically, it’s complete.

The taxes are done, or all but, as well. I sent the last number to the tax person after dinner last night.

The background work I’ve been doing is for the new domains and the new idea re this information and other writings I’ve published, are in process, or are complete, but not yet released “into the wild.”

The current plan is to have the book-related website up sometime in April. This is faster, why? Because a lot of what we’re going to do is post links for other people, the books I’ve been involved with, etc. Doesn’t require a lot of original content, just a framework.

The dehoarding piece (a lot of which will come from here) work has begun, but will take some time. Warning: posts may disappear from here altogether when I get the new things set up. What will stay: the how-to posts which are my most popular (how to cook madagascar rice, how to get more books on a bookshelf, ways to stay cool you may not have thought of, and others).

Re the housecleaning/purge? Things are better, although it certainly isn’t perfect. The bathroom counter is staying clean, the dishes are getting worked on, daily, as is the laundry. I’ve decided that when I can keep those three areas clean without it being a battle, then I will have achieved a major goal: that is, to deal with the inevitable addition of mess, daily.

That’s my first goal if you will. To get to where it isn’t something I even have to think about. The dishes are mostly there, DH or I do dishes, daily. We don’t get them all done or all put away every day, so that’s the next piece. The bathroom counter has been getting cleared off for some time, that’s really done. The exception there is that for a while now, the bathroom has been a construction zone. That should end soon. The worst piece of the three is laundry.

I learned that it’s impossible to keep a room clean if you just have too much stuff in it, I also learned that the daily influx has to be dealt with, first. I had this notion that if I just got rid of enough stuff, of any sort, that the house would be cleanable. Yes, that’s true. But when you count a dresser the same as for a piece of paper, as I was doing at the beginning, it doesn’t work very well!

 

Odd Connections

I was describing how to parse a 5 paragraph essay to my student. (I have an ESL student I tutor.) We’re working on comprehension. Having taught/tutored this for a year or two in Florida (There’s a state law, or used to be, that you couldn’t get a 2 year degree in FL unless you can write a 5 paragraph theme.) I know what the pieces are.

On the way home, it occurred to me that I have this scheme for organizing goals, but I have never used it for the house clean-out effort.

I want to host a party this year. So, on the way home, I started parsing the problem out, like I was going to write a 5 paragraph theme.

Forget the first and last paragraphs, they are the intro and conclusion, not germane here. But what is germane is the body paragraphs, usually 3 main points, with 3 supporting details in each (9 points).

Ultimate Goal: Completed Culling.

  1. No storage unit.
  2. No stacks of boxes in the house, shed or woodshed.
  3. No island of boxes in the attic.

Intermediate Goal: Host the Party.

  1. No stacks of boxes in the house.
  2. Enough room in the storage for boxes removed from the house to be moved there, if need be.
  3. The attic can remain as it is, although it could also, if further culled, take some of the boxes from the house, if need be.

First Goal: Go Through/Get Rid of the Boxes in the House.

  1. This has been slowed because of my elbow. I can’t move things around, do the heavy lifting I could. However, I can do some.
  2. The first flea market, the big one I do every year, is the last day of this month. I’ll pull a lot of merchandise from the booth and the house and the storage to best take advantage of it. (And donate much of the unsold merchandise, as I have the past 3 years, to the Salvation Army in the town where the flea market is.)
  3. I am considering renting an indoor flea market booth for April and May. This will give me two places to sell items. It will also give me a flow: I can put things in the antique booth, pull them, try and sell them at the flea market, before I drop them off at the consigning church (which only takes 10 items a week).

You know? At various times in my Tech. writing career, I was the go-to person to draw up Yordon data flow diagrams and flowcharts, diagrams which show how to get complicated things done requiring many steps. Maybe I need to do one or the other for myself?

Here’s a data flow diagram:

data flow diagram via google images

Here’s a flowchart:

flowchart sample via google images

It just never occurred to me to use the tools I have used at work for this, or if it did, it was long, long ago. Hmmm!

 

What’s New?

A few things. DH decided that he couldn’t “make due” even with all the work he’d done on the wallboard in the niche, so he’s in the process of tearing out the not-square, straight, or supported correctly wallboard, and replacing it, so it’s square and adequately supported.

This house is a weird mix. The guy who built it bought top-notch materials, like solid-wood doors, then did really bad workmanship, if there was any, with them. Why bother? This means every time we try to upgrade or just replace something, it becomes a demo/replace because the apparent, initial problem is only an indicator of what’s lurking under the surface. This place looked great ….

The other thing is that I finally decided I had to make the living room rug. I won’t spend the $500+ for a rug I like. I can find cheaper rugs, but they’re plastic and we’ve spent a lot of time/money taking plastic out of here because I’m allergic or sensitive to much of it. So, I’m knitting (that’s a shock, remember this and that?) a rug in 5′ long panels from old tshirts. I’ve made rugs from tshirts before (see pics below). The biggest one, in the laundry was 4 x 6 . I never took a pic.

The little one (the colorful one below) which had been in the bathroom got taken apart when I discovered I couldn’t get it the stains out of it. I dismantled it, then washed the strips, still couldn’t get them clean; they were trashed. The black and white one was made for someone and given away. The laundry room rug got mildewed when our old washer developed a leak, and I couldn’t remove the stench from the pieces, so most of it went to the dump too.

I’ve started other rugs, but the strips got mixed with the mildewed strips, before I realized how bad the mildew was (I’d washed them of course!) and 95% of the tarn I had prepared got trashed.

This was so discouraging I quit working with tarn completely.

The new living room rug, will be 5 x 8 feet, knitted from tarn. If all  the pieces are the same size as the piece I’ve been working on, I need to 17 strips,5′ long. I don’t think it will take that many as I intend to do something in between the knitted pieces. If it works? I won’t have to make 17. I hope!

The first piece has 15 tshirts worth of material in it.  I need to make the 2nd piece (or part of it) and try my joining idea. If the joining works, then I’ll refigure how many knitted strips, and tshirts needed.

Conservatively? If I just make the 17 pieces, at a shirt rate of 15 per 5′ strip? It’s 204 shirts, that’s all! Making the tarn actually takes longer than the knitting, no surprise.

Rug #1

1st rug

Rug #2

sarah's rug.JPG

Monday 1/29/18

My jobs today are pretty much determined by the closet rehab. I have wallboard to clean and trim. I need to dig the knot sealer/primer out of the attic so it can be used up as appropriate and the paint we decided to use for the bathroom as well. (A slightly glossier version of the paint used in the living room.) The paint samples for the baseboard paint (living room and elsewhere) are here (We ordered them last week.).

DH decided he wanted to use a dark blue paint, I’d pretty much decided I wanted black. The compromise is two blues, both really dark. We’re planning to paint one of the baseboard scraps from the closet with both so we can decide.

I’m not sure what ELSE will be on my list today, but of the 6 things I should get done, as many of the above chores will be counted!

  1. Arrange some of the “out books” in the new 12 x 12 x 12 boxes. Either they’re getting shipped, donated, taken to the booth for possible sale, or put aside for later shelving. Space needs to be made in the attic for that last category!
  2. Find the holes to caulk in the bath closet and do so. Also  — there are two holes from the old monitor mount, over your desk in the office, which need to be filled. DH caulked the bathroom holes a day or so ago. Thurs. a.m.
  3. Keep culling the bathroom supplies. Despite what you thought, there are a lot of out of date products in there! Not only finish the cull of the items removed from the closet, but go through again the items under the sink.7:30 p.m.
  4. Paint retrieval from the attic for the bathroom closet project! Weds.3:30 p.m.
  5. Undo/remove extra insulating foam as it’s set now. I was all prepared to do this, every time I mentioned it, DH had a reason to wait. He did it. Weds. a.m.
  6. (fill in) Clean the bathroom closet’s walls. 3:30

DH took a pic or two of the closet nuked, I think. I’ll enjoy putting up an image when it’s done, although I’m not so sure about sharing images of it between nuked and finished? We’ll see!

 

In Case You Haven’t Noticed

Rather than put up lists and get behind, I’m NOT putting up a new “to do” list until the old list is complete.

No backlog.

I have 2 items outstanding on Thursday’s list:

  • Clean the inside of a closet. Sat. 8:00 a.m., bathroom closet
  • Go through a new box. Sat 11:15 a.m.

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Thursday 1/11/18

  1. Clean the inside of a closet.
  2. Go through a new box.
  3. Clean off the dining room table. 1:30 p.m.
  4. Clear the clean clothes off the washer/dryer. done sometime before dinner, Thurs 1/11.
  5. Put tags on the for sale items. Fri. a.m.