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Friday’s Five & Backlog

I did something which shows me how things are different these days. Yesterday I gave away brand new packages of lunch bags and staples, to two different businesses. The lunch bags were given to an antique store who uses them to wrap china and glassware. The staples were given to the antique store where I have a booth.

In both cases, I have more than I think I’ll use in a reasonable time, without them.

I use about 1/2 package of lunch bags a year for drying herbs/spices. (And I reuse them sometimes too.) I had come to the end of a package and bought some, thinking I was out. When I went to put it away, there was another new package! I sure didn’t need another 50!

The box of staples came from a box of shop office supplies. I thought I’d folded in or deleted extras from the shop’s supplies long ago, but I found a box a few months back filled with labels (mostly tossed), the box of staples, and a few miscellaneous pieces. When I cleaned office shelves last week or so, I realized we had 2 complete boxes of staples, more than we’d likely need until oh 2050. I don’t expect to be alive or wanting staples by then anyway!

Previously, I would have kept them; in fact I did. These days? They’re clutter I can get rid of easily, and that’s great!

Friday’s Five:

  1. Find something to do with the extra eggs.
  2. Make pepper jelly.
  3. Figure out a new way/place to store the yarn and put it away.
  4. Look at the stored snow tires. Need new ones? In the budget?
  5. Make cookies with the frozen oatmeal.

Much of this is dealing with food, obviously. Partly because farm day was yesterday. But it’s partly because the other chores in/out are so far behind. I have to cook no matter what else happens most of the time, so this is an “easy” way to get the list pared down. If it’s a cheat, it is — sue me!

BACKLOG:

Thursday:

  • Empty my desk, again.
  • Cut more sage and other such from the garden. Kale Fri. 10/13, most of the rest of it 10/15. Need to pull some tarragon and that’s it.
  • Make up/try the Naval Academy brass polish.

Wednesday:

  1. Clean off DH’s desk.
  2. Cull books from one “holding pattern” bookcases. Either they’re out or they stay!, in process Thurs. a.m. (I did the 1st shelf.)

Finish laundry room clean up.

Tuesday:

  • Weed the brick path around the veggie garden, edge it. in process, 1st quarter done 1:30 Fri., 2nd quarter and 1/2 the 3rd done Sunday.
  • Move the lumber which needs it from the shed so it can be put away in the loft.
  • Work on grading the last pile of dirt.Fri. 1 p.m.

Monday:

  • Put family photos in the album. Can’t be done. Photos located, album missing! 

Friday:

  • Examine winter coats for flaws, etc.
  • Do the last gather of flea market materials, last market is Saturday 10/14 date changed to 10/21

Thursday:

  • Put ice scrapers in the cars, examine and see if they need replacement?
  • Ship the box to the BIL, make up more boxes of things which should be shipped and get them sent! I think I did this, although I’m not sure. I cannot find the box anywhere!!!

Monday’s Backlog:

  • Clear stuff from my car and run a vac through at least part of it!.
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New Ideas About Cleaning

Aside from the PTSD, bad habits and panic attacks, as if that wasn’t enough, I’ve had one other major problem about cleaning up the house. No one ever taught me how! This means that no one ever showed me the “right” order to do things. I was taught at boarding school how to make a bed, clean a toilet or trash can, but not how to make a schedule or plan to cover the basics, regularly.

And, I admit, that doing anything regularly wouldn’t have happened anyway, because of the panic attacks. Cleaning is like writing a novel or any other longer piece, you have to keep slogging away at it I’ve found. Difficult for me, if not impossible for much of my life.

That said, I have discovered a few things:

  1. Always clean more than you have to. That is, if the dishes are done and you have 1 item in the sink, find a candlestick or decorative something to clean too. This also applies to sweeping the kitchen, putting clothes away, whatever. Especially if the chores aren’t involved or big, add something minor. Cleaning the bath counter? Wipe down the box on the shelf, etc. etc. etc.
  2. Hard surfaces, impervious to water are the easiest to clean; where soft surfaces, which absorb water are the hardest.
  3. Clean the areas used the most more than others.
  4. Clean the most obvious areas first. (I have [had?] a tendency to clean closets and drawers when the urge to clean hit me. Before I realized the clutter was what I needed to feel safe, it was dumbfounding to me that I could spend a whole day cleaning and you couldn’t tell. This is, of course, backwards from the way most people work. And that’s the reason why those “toss this” lists really didn’t work for me.
  5. Find whatever works for you and run with it. I spent DECADES trying to use flylady or other cleaning plans, and couldn’t.  This caused more of the internal I’m stupid, flawed, and just screwed up mantra.  I figured “Of course this doesn’t work for me and it does for Mary or Jo. It’s me after all.” I finally accepted that I couldn’t adopt someone else’s plans, I had to come up with my own — in my 60s!

Thursday’s Five & a Smaller Backlog

Today’s Five:

  1. Empty my desk, again.
  2. Get insulation in the cavity of the new wall so it can be sealed.DH did this Thurs. evening!
  3. Cut more sage and other such from the garden.
  4. Make up/try the Naval Academy brass polish.
  5. Work on the household journal. Thurs. 9:50

Wednesday:

  1. Clean off DH’s desk.
  2. Cull books from one “holding pattern” bookcases. Either they’re out or they stay!, in process Thurs. a.m.
  3. Work on the marble table. Thurs. 9 a.m.

Finish laundry room clean up.

Tuesday:

  • Weed the brick path around the veggie garden, edge it.
  • Move the lumber which needs it from the shed so it can be put away in the loft.
  • Work on grading the last pile of dirt.

Monday:

  • Put family photos in the album. Can’t be done. Photos located, album missing! 

Friday:

  • Examine winter coats for flaws, etc.
  • Do the last gather of flea market materials, last market is Saturday 10/14 date changed to 10/21

Thursday:

  • Put ice scrapers in the cars, examine and see if they need replacement?
  • Ship the box to the BIL, make up more boxes of things which should be shipped and get them sent!

Monday’s Backlog:

  • Clear stuff from my car and run a vac through at least part of it!
  • Move the paint as DH and I discussed.Thurs. 10:10 a.m.

Going Antiquing! Well, No, I’m not. . .

There’s an antique “trail” sort of event happening today. I was going to go to one of my fave shops and add 2 more shops in between the house, there, and where I have my stuff for sale.

But I’m not. Why?

Because I refuse to battle with google docs to give me directions. I looked everything up on a computer here at home. Sent it to myself as an email. Oh, wait that won’t work, my email isn’t current on the phone. Sent it to myself as a text.

Fine. Get in the car, decide to double check that I have the directions — can’t get it to open. And can’t and can’t. Get DH involved. He is confused. I have google maps on my phone, although google doesn’t seem to think so?

So, we put the shops back in, except I can’t get them to work in the correct order. I can delete shops, but not add them back in, in the right order. So, I can go to MA then come back to NH to go back to MA to come back to NH.

Not sane.

After 10-15 minutes f’n around with this, I gave up. I don’t need to go antiquing. I don’t need more stuff. I am looking for 2 pieces, that’s all. It will all wait!

I’m going to change back into grubbies and find something really *nasty* to clean — so I can work off the end of my anger.

GRrrrrrr.

J

Did I? Friday’s Five and . . .

What did I get done from my list yesterday? NOTHING!

When I got back from the farm, I dove into dealing with the bags and boxes of food and making dinner.

I washed a few dishes and managed to wash 4 lbs + of tomatoes, prep/freeze celeriac, deal with peppers, etc. Today? Today I have to make two large batches of salsa and some roasted marinara (red). Most of that happens in fits & starts, so it can happen concurrently with other chores.

I decided the Alphabetics sheets were a mess and started making master sheets and work sheets, separately. I’d had them combined. Too much in one place!

Long and short of this? I have to do all of yesterday’s list and today’s as well.

Here’s today’s list:

  1. Put the house jacks away in the basement.3:20 p.m.
  2. Straighten two shelves 2:45 p.m.
  3. Get all the tweeds for the upholstery job in one place, tidily! 11:00 a.m.
  4. Work more on the general fabric storage clean up.3:10 p.m. I’m counting pulling the blanket basket down, dusting the shelf where it sits, cleaning the basket, shaking all the blankets and putting the entire thing back, neatly!
  5.  Pull the quilts out of storage and check for needed repairs and required cleaning. 12:05 p.m.

Other news: We returned the contract for the chimney repair, yesterday. DH also sent a note re the last of the roof/porch issues to the contractor this morning. Either this weekend or next, we’ll be getting the first part of our firewood supply. Came Saturday. Next load, next weekend.


What I’ve done so far: lg container of veggies in freezer. Two bags of “stew veggies” started, but not finished. 10:50 a.m. Three bags of stew veggies in the freezer. Golden barley soup started. Carrot storage reorganized. Dishes washed. Laundry. Helped DH with clapboards. (He’s doing the last 2 on the south side — now!)

I May Hex Myself

But I have to say this: the PTSD hasn’t gotten up in arms about what I’ve been doing. I’m amazed, really I am. For DECADES I couldn’t do this, make a list of 5 things and then do them without feeling vulnerable, targeted, panicked, and weepy.

Not there this time!

As I said, the tacit acknowledgement of what I’m doing may be the thing which ends this, Gawd knows it has 100s of times before. But, it doesn’t feel that way this time.

Maybe that’s why I’ve felt compelled to write this post? It’s a sort of emotional running your tongue over the hole where your tooth used to be.

We’ll see!

J

Friday’s Five, Actually, It’s 12!

Here’s my new list of things to do today:

  1. Tidy needlework supplies and equipment.
  2. Find a new home for the puzzles (displaced when the Hoosier was sent for sale). Done 6:00 p.m.
  3. Put away summer weight coats. (It’s the first day of fall, yes?)
  4. Dust a shelf in the office.10:47 a.m.
  5. Box  yard sale items up for the last sale or put in the dump bin (to donate).11:30 a.m.

What’s left from earlier this week:

  1. Deal with mail
  2. Work on the wood piles (also on the to do list).
  3. Update grain storage: review/cull, clean containers, etc. A tiny piece of this was done as part of clearing the kitchen counter. Weds. 10 a.m.
  4. Prep for the Christmas ornaments I’m making. Finished Friday. Now all I have to do is finalize the assembly!
  5. Dust the stained glass. Done 11:40 Friday
  6. Finish the salsa started Thursday.It was finished, except a small amount needed a container. Done! Friday 11:14
  7. Work on the house notebook.