Monthly Archives: February 2014

How Do you Treat Someone …

…who is going through something awful? The death of a loved one, a divorce, the fallout of a car wreck, whatever it might be?

I don’t know about you, but I clutch. For all that I’m supposed to be a writer and editor these days, Anything I can think to say seems inadequate, hackneyed, and trite. Frequently, rather than say anything, I say nothing at all — which I’m sure is much worse!

I get angry when someone’s response to my PTSD/background is an “easy answer,” get over it, move on, time will heal the wound, think strong, etc. but I would feel much worse if I explained about my PTSD and/or my background and got no response at all.

So, I’m a hypocrite; well, I’m human. We all have this kind of duality, yes? I do have a much easier time dealing with someone I know is permanently “wounded,” as in has a chronic condition, PTSD, etc. as opposed to sudden life-changing events, like death or divorce.

But it still begs the question I started with: How do you treat the wounded? What is the proper response? Do I just live with my discomfort and say whatever I can think of?

J

Two Posts for the Price of One or I Have a Weird Mind!

Earlier today I wrote this Post and called it Angry, Fed Up and ?

I am TIRED of being overwhelmed. I’m FED UP with cleaning,  culling,  cleaning, culling,  cleaning and it’s not done . . .

I want to

SCREAM

and throw things. Of course, I won’t — it would just make more mess.

But sometimes? Sometimes, I HATE my life!

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Then DH and I took down the shelf on my side of the bed, had dinner, washed the dishes and I fixed the it-feels-like the 1,000th problem with the current article  for work. . . .

Later, I looked, for some reason at “word art” and didn’t find anything I really, really loved. I have one idea for something to do for DH, but wanted something nifty for a card or such.

Aha! A brainstorm! If I get it done AND I do it well enough I’ll show someone else, I’ll post a pic. Since the husband never reads this, I think I’m safe that way and it’s only just over a week away!

Between cleaning the dishes, working on the next step for the bedroom and the creative burst of energy from the Valentine’s idea, aside from being tired, I’m just fine — thank you very much!

And I say I “used to” have mood swings. I guess I still have them, ‘eh? I just normally don’t let other people see them any more (I was outta control a lot as a kid and young adult).

J

What I do & don’t want this year

I do want

  1.   a clean house
  2.   to get to where the house and its cleanliness (or not) is NOT an issue
  3.   to finish the memoir
  4. the storage units gone
  5. get involved with some kind of community something
  6. get the new anthology done

I don’t want

  1. to feel unsafe
  2. to count stuff in or out
  3. apologize for my home, my taste, or much of my life anymore
  4. lose money in my jobs
  5. to be out of shape
  6. to not be creative

What I really want is #2 on the DO list. That would cover about 5 of the 12 things listed. I want to successfully work on and finish the projects I’m committed to now (memoir, new book, new job). Finally, I want to be healthier (give back to my community, feel safer, be physically fit, unapologetic and creative).

Hmmm.

House clean/nonissue

Work profitable/successful

Health better physically/emotionally

No absolutes, except the jobs, which require them.

Well, the house being “clean” is an absolute, but there’s 10,000 shades of gray in what a “clean” house is. Mine right now would be a house without misc. stuff stored in it, in boxes. Of course that doesn’t actually mean the house is clean at all, just less clutter.

Okay, that’s my next concrete goal: no more boxes stored IN the house. I will exempt the attic, closets and current work. (Can’t process the stuff if I don’t have it) Interesting idea! I wonder how long it would take me to do this? If I was just pitching boxes & their contents, it would take about 2 days. But of course, that isn’t what’s happening.

Whirrrrrrrrrrr/click/clICK/CLANK (wheels going ’round)

I’ll think on it!

The History of Denim Strips

The denim strips I’ve been turning into decorations (hearts) have been in my life oh for more than 10 years now. Originally, they were legs cut off of jeans to make shorts by the seamstress for a fellow I knew. He sold jeans and denim shorts at a flea market where I had a booth. I took the trash bag full of denim leg pieces and had no idea wtf I was going to do with them. Years later, I decided to turn them into a rug.

The first attempt didn’t work. (1)

I gave them to someone else to turn into a rug, which worked fine, except that it curled. The third time I tripped over it I stopped using it. (2)

Then I came up with a brilliant idea of how I was going to use them to make a different kind of rug. I took apart (2) and charged ahead — except that didn’t work either. (3)

I came up with yet another technique. And, since I have never dismantled (3), I started buying jeans at flea markets, picking them up at the swap shop at the dump, etc. btw, this one didn’t work either (4).

So, I have a LARGE box in the attic labelled “denim for rugs” which is probably uncut jeans and I had somewhere around 1,000 denim strips in the house, mostly still in failed rugs (3) and (4).

While this was going on, I kept trying to figure out how to finger weave a rug, no loom, no sewing, but never found one. Instead, I had figured out how to handweave hearts. Lately, what I’ve been doing is making those hearts for resale. If they don’t sell? Well, that’s too bad, I’ll scatter them around the house, use them as booth decorations or just toss them. Right now there’s two with felt backs (another failed idea) hanging on the front door. I really should remove the not-so-great felt backs, but  haven’t yet. I probably will — eventually.

Also, eventually, and sooner than later, I need to make up a tutorial for these or someone will buy them, undo one or two and post a tutorial for something that literally took me months to figure out. I’m not proud, but I do want credit for the many hours of  trial & error I did until I got it right!

Just so you know, I took apart rug (4) to make these. It doesn’t exist any more. Rug (3) is still here. My intention is to take that apart and make more hearts. I haven’t decided what to do about the box, yet.

I had a draft of an article I

wrote about polyvore. WordPress for some reason decided that I when I hit “publish” today, that I had published this on 1/17. More craziness. It was the same f’n post that caused so many problems earlier. I retitled it, added to it and changed the entry from draft to publish.

I hate it when software just doesn’t work!

Have a great Sunday every one —

J

Been sick

for most of the week. Next to nothing new has happened, except that I feel like I’m FINALLY ’round the corner and getting better. What did get done:

  1. I’ve got valentine-y things ready to go to the booth for sale. If I don’t get better soon, they’ll just have to go back into storage, sigh.
  2. I got an angel up on the wall in the bedroom, something I’d planned to do for a while.
  3. I added (need to be “finished” two of the dowels to the window that got done.
  4. I got together the pieces for making up the next 2 curtain rods.
  5. I got the next article to my boss,  which is good as our deadline for this issue is approaching fast.

That’s it. VERY nonproductive week.